What Hotel Staff May Really Think About Passengers

Professional Courtesy, Private Judgement and Emotional Labour at Sea

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Overview

A passenger complains that the soup is cold. Another asks a cabin steward for extra towels while the steward is already rushing to complete dozens of cabins. At Guest Services, someone disputes a charge and demands to speak to a manager.

The employee listens, apologises and remains calm.

Passengers usually interpret this courtesy as friendliness. It may be sincere. Many cruise employees take pride in their work and form genuine connections with passengers.

But courtesy is also part of the ship’s operating system.

Hotel staff are not only paid to serve meals, clean cabins and resolve problems. They are expected to control their facial expressions, tone of voice and emotional reactions. Their private opinion of a passenger must rarely interfere with the visible service performance.

The Professional Smile

Arlie Hochschild described this type of work as emotional labour: managing feelings and expressions as part of a paid occupation. The employee’s calmness, patience and apparent warmth become part of the service being purchased.

A passenger can show irritation. The employee is expected to absorb it.

A passenger can return to a private cabin. The crew member remains inside the workplace, which is also the crew member’s home.

This does not mean every smile is false. A waiter may genuinely enjoy serving a particular table. A cabin steward may sincerely care about an elderly passenger. Professional performance and genuine feeling can exist together.

The difficulty arises when the employee must appear cheerful despite fatigue, frustration or private disagreement.

What Staff Notice

Cruise employees observe passengers from a perspective passengers rarely consider.

Cabin stewards notice who leaves a cabin exceptionally untidy, who says thank you and who treats junior crew members as social inferiors.

Dining staff notice who consistently arrives late, monopolises attention or blames the waiter for policies the waiter cannot control.

Guest Services personnel encounter passengers when something has gone wrong:

·        an unexpected charge

·        a cancelled port

·        lost property

·        a cabin problem

·        a missed excursion

·        a missing document.

They therefore see passengers not only when relaxed, but when comfort, certainty or status has been disrupted.

Some passengers remain calm and reasonable. Others become demanding or accusatory. Experienced hotel staff gradually develop a practical understanding of how people behave when their holiday no longer proceeds exactly as expected.

Front Stage and Backstage

Erving Goffman distinguished between the front stage, where people maintain a public performance, and the backstage, where they can step out of character.

Cruise ships contain clear versions of both.

Passengers see:

·        polished corridors

·        prepared cabins

·        dining rooms

·        reception desks

·        smiling employees.

Behind them are:

·        galleys

·        pantries

·        laundries

·        crew corridors

·        service lifts

·        crew messes

·        shared cabins.

In these backstage areas, employees may speak more frankly. They may joke about an unusual request, warn colleagues about a difficult passenger or express frustration that could never be displayed publicly.

Brian David Bruns’s memoir Cruise Confidential offers examples of this backstage humour and crew commentary. It remains one individual account rather than a description of every ship, but it illustrates how workers may use humour to manage pressure and fatigue.

The private joke may actually help preserve the public courtesy.

Private Judgement Is Not Always Negative

The question of what staff “really think” often assumes hidden hostility.

That is too simple.

Crew members may privately admire passengers who remain calm during disruption, learn staff names, recognise hard work and understand that an individual employee does not control company policy, weather or port operations.

On longer voyages, passengers and crew may develop genuine familiarity. Employees sometimes remember returning guests across different contracts and ships.

Hotel staff may also recognise that apparently difficult behaviour can result from anxiety, loneliness, confusion, illness or fear. A passenger demanding immediate attention may not simply be entitled. The passenger may feel temporarily powerless inside an unfamiliar institution.

Professional experience teaches employees to distinguish between deliberate disrespect and distress expressed badly.

Courtesy as Institutional Control

Courtesy is normally described as hospitality, but aboard a cruise ship it also supports order.

A passenger who trusts the crew is more likely to:

·        follow instructions

·        disclose a medical problem

·        report a hazard

·        accept an itinerary change

·        remain calm during disruption.

The emotional atmosphere of the ship therefore has an operational purpose.

Cruise ships place thousands of strangers inside a confined environment. Frustration, uncertainty and cultural misunderstanding cannot be eliminated. They must be continually managed.

Hotel staff perform much of this work.

The employee who remains calm at Guest Services is not only resolving an account dispute. The employee is preventing irritation from spreading.

The waiter who replaces a meal without argument is not only protecting customer satisfaction. The waiter is maintaining the social stability of the dining room.

The Hidden Achievement

Hotel staff do not share one opinion of passengers. Some passengers are remembered with affection. Some are considered demanding, inconsiderate or amusing. Most are probably regarded professionally rather than intensely.

The important fact is not that private judgement exists. Private judgement exists in every workplace.

The remarkable achievement is that cruise institutions prevent those private opinions from controlling public behaviour.

The cabin is cleaned. The complaint is recorded. The meal is replaced. The employee returns the next morning and says good morning again.

Beneath that simple exchange is a demanding form of labour.

Cruise hotel staff do not merely provide service. They help suppress the everyday social friction that could otherwise destabilise a temporary floating society.

Official Sources and Records

• International Labour Organization, Maritime Labour Convention, 2006, as amended.
• International Maritime Organization, International Safety Management Code.

Further Reading

• Arlie Russell Hochschild, The Managed Heart: Commercialization of Human Feeling.
• Erving Goffman, The Presentation of Self in Everyday Life.
• Brian David Bruns, Cruise Confidential: A Hit Below the Waterline.
• Philip L. Pearce, The Social Psychology of Tourist Behaviour.

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